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I-Statements

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A basic communication distinction. "I felt dismissed when the conversation shifted" vs.

A basic communication distinction. "I felt dismissed when the conversation shifted" vs. "You never listen to me." I-statements describe your experience without attacking the other person and are much less likely to trigger defensiveness. You-statements place blame and almost always produce a counter-attack.

Origin

Thomas Gordon, 1960s