Perpetual vs Solvable Problems

One of Gottman's most important findings: 69% of all relationship conflict is perpetual — rooted in fundamental personality differences or values that will never fully resolve. Only 31% is solvable. The goal with perpetual problems isn't resolution; it's dialogue, understanding, and finding a livable compromise. Couples who spend years trying to "fix" perpetual problems end up in gridlock. Recognizing the difference is a major shift.

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John Gottman